Dear friends in Christ,

Most of us don’t like to think about our own passing.  Taking some time to plan a little, though, can really benefit your family and make your funeral a very meaningful service for all who remain.  I’ve had several people express an interest in having a say in their OWN funeral service someday.  Have you thought about what you would like your own funeral or memorial service to be like?  Does your family know about your thoughts or ideas?  Maybe now is a good time to write some things down or discuss your wishes with your loved ones.

A Christian’s funeral service should be a kind of homecoming, a celebration of that person’s life, as well as a joyful recognition of the great reward they have achieved upon their death.  We rejoice with triumphant hymns, reassuring Scripture, and fervent prayers in heartfelt worship.  We feel the warm love and concern of family, friends, and our loving God.

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What are some things to consider when planning a funeral or memorial service?

1. What uplifting hymns or songs would you like to include?   It is very appropriate to sing Easter hymns, reminding us of past Easters when we celebrated Christ’s resurrection and the assurance of our own future resurrection.  Hymns about redemption through Baptism are wonderfully reassuring.  Favorite songs of hope and comfort abound.  Singing the liturgy can also be very comforting, especially the Nunc Dimittis (Lord, now lettest Thou Thy servant depart in peace…).   Let the congregation sing and the organ play loudly the praise of the Resurrected Lord!  Grab a hymnal and start looking. Below are a few suggestions.

2. What readings would I like to include?  Traditionally, our worship includes a reading from the Old Testament, a Psalm, a reading from the Epistles, and a Gospel reading.  Find comforting readings that are familiar to you.  Search for words of assurance that mean something to you.  Do you have a Confirmation verse that could be used?  The pastor can provide much help here.  Overall, make sure that the Gospel is heard clearly and in a memorable way, because this may be the only time some of the people present will ever hear the Gospel! (See Suggestions below.)

3. What details do I need to convey?  Make sure that your loved ones know your specific preferences.  Who would you like to preach?  Who will be pall bearers?  Where will the service be?  Where should memorial funds be designated?  Write down your birth date, your baptismal date, your confirmation date, your wedding date.  The more your family knows, the less they have to research or guess.  Write your preferences down, make a file, and give them to a trusted family member or to your pastor!

Weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.  Psalm 30:5

 
Hope to see you in worship!

Scott Kamman​